Finding Self-Motivation

Many times, we find ourselves looking for motivation for different reasons. “I need motivation to do this home work”, “I’m not motivated to go to work today”, “I need motivation to go to the gym”

Where can we find this motivation? Some of us look to others for motivation and the same people that we look to for motivation could be able to hiatus our motivation because we were so dependent on them to drive us. What we need to do is find SELF MOTIVATION!

If you want to excel in life, self-motivation is essential. You must know how to motivate yourself. You must be able to keep your spirit high no matter how discouraging a situation is. That’s the only way to get the power you need to overcome difficulties. Those who are discouraged in difficult times are certain to lose even before the battle is over.

The thing that causes us not to be self-motivated is that we do not have goals. “What goal can I achieve by doing this maths homework? I’m never going to use this subject once I leave school.” Sometimes although we have a goal we still are not self-motivated. “I want to have a body like her/him (goal) but I don’t want to go to the gym”

If you struggle to set goals for yourself set nightmares. There are only two things that control us –our fears and our love

-Jericho Silvers

I have goals but when I’m feeling unmotivated I create a troubling image in my head of what the consequences of not doing this one thing is. Like this:

I don’t revise for the test, I fail the test

I fail the test, I lose my chance to get into college

I lose my chance to get into college, I work for minimum wage

I work for minimum wage, I can’t afford my dream house

I can’t afford my dream house because I didn’t revise for the test.

Some of us are born self-motivated but others have to develop self-motivation for themselves and like many thing in life it is not easy. I advise that you begin with simply finishing what you have started. So many of us become scattered as we
try to accomplish a task. Finish one task before you begin another. You can also read good books or listen to inspirational tapes.

Don’t limit yourself, dream BIG. You are capable of doing anything that anyone else can do. You may not have the same resources as that person, it may take you 2 years longer but you can do it. Do NOT depend on others to be motivated to do something. They would hold you back from showing your real potential. Become self-motivated.

From Depression to Deep-pression

EVERYONE feels depressed at some point in their life but unfortunately for some of us we feel depressed more often than others. Like me, I usually get depressed more than 2 times per day and for the most absurd of things. Luckily for those of you who do not feel depressed often, you have a measure of what in the psychiatric trade is known as “resilience”. (Yay for you! I’m jealous.)

Depression affects most persons differently. Although you and your friend might be facing the same problem the way you react to it can be completely different. Some persons react to depression by drinking alcohol, smoking, eating and some go into a state that I call, “Deep-pression” (this is where someone feel as if their life is no longer valuable). Persons experiencing deep-pression usually do self-harm and have thoughts of suicide.

Today I’m here to say that you are not alone. The feeling that you are having in this moment is temporary and life has more in store for you. It might not feel this way right about now but trust me ( a complete stranger) when I say that at some point you would feel as if all that hurt/depression lead you to that moment of hopefulness and or contentment. When you’re depressed, it can feel like no one understands. You are not alone and your depression is not a hopeless case.

Ways you can identify if you’re depressed:

  • You constantly feel irritable, sad, or angry.
  • Nothing seems fun anymore, and you just don’t see the point of trying.
  • You feel bad about yourself—worthless, guilty, or just “wrong” in some way
  • You sleep too much or not enough.
  • You have frequent, unexplained headaches or other physical problems.
  • Anything and everything makes you cry.
  • You’ve gained or lost weight without consciously trying to.
  • You just can’t concentrate. Your grades may be plummeting because of it.
  • You feel helpless and hopeless.
  • You’re thinking about death or suicide. (If this is true, talk to someone right away!)

Okay, so I’m depressed, I’m stressed, I have a headache, I’m frustrated. What can I do to solve this?

#1 Go Outside!

It’s not healthy to stay indoors all of the time. Your mind works better with fresh air and nature can help inspire creativity. If you’re like me and don’t have much friends or for whatever reason, you can’t go outside then open a window and be near it. The fresh air will do you good.

#2 Don’t Be Alone

You remember when you were a kid and you would get really excited when another kid wanted to play with you? Same thing here. As humans, we are very relationship-minded. We need social interaction so don’t avoid your loved ones. Even if you think you’d rather be alone, you’ll be much happier with the company.

#3 Don’t Dwell

“If I’d only done this…”
“If only I’d been nicer to her…”
“If only I’d worked a little bit harder!”
Look, we’ve all been there. You could play the “if only” game until you’re a cranky old man but if you spend so much time feeling sorry about what could have been then how can you ever move forward? You have a whole life ahead of you, but you can’t live it if you’re too busy looking over your shoulder.

#4 Don’t Be Afraid.

Just like all of the “if only” thoughts, the “what if” thoughts can hold you back too. Stop worrying about what is going to happen and just get out there to live your life. Your fear could be what’s bumming you out and causing you to miss out on some exciting opportunities. You’ll never know until you try.

#5 You’re Beautiful.

Maybe you looked in the mirror at Target and didn’t like what you saw. Or you got the pictures back from last weekend and you’re not sure when it happened but you’re not happy with the way you look. Understand that no matter what you weigh, what your skin looks like or how long your hair is, your beauty comes first from the inside. Everything else is cosmetic and can easily be dealt with so stop letting it ruin your life.

#6 Drink More Water.

One of the signs of dehydration is a depressed feeling. It can last for weeks and make you feel like your body is shutting down. Perhaps you have headaches, muscle aches and you feel more emotional than usual. These could be a number of things but chances are, you’re not drinking enough water. Try to get at least 64 ounces of water each day and see how you feel in a few days.

#7 Find a Hobby

Having a hobby is a great way to relieve stress and feelings of inadequacy. By focusing your creative energy on something, you can get your aggression out and feel like you’re doing something to benefit you or the world around you. Take a karate class, start painting again, learn how to grow a garden. Whatever it is you’ve always thought of doing, give it a try.

#8 Take Some Time Off

If you have a larger workload than usual and you’re finding that at the end of the day, there is no time to do anything but catch a few hours of sleep then maybe it’s time to take a break. Go on a family vacation, go for a weekend getaway, take a week off of work and just relax around the house. Whatever you need to do to unwind, you should do it.

#9 Stay Positive.

It’s easy to feel bad when all you do is focus on the negative details of life. Sure, things don’t always go your way and it seems like everything is failing, but don’t worry, it happens that way for almost everyone. Everyone has problems, but the key is to stay thankful for all of the amazing things in your life. What do you have to be thankful for? Think it over, no matter how small, you’ll find plenty to feel good about and even if the list is small, there’s always time to add more to it. Don’t make yourself into a victim.

If you’ve reach a stage of deep-pression, PLEASE use the contact information for your country provided below……

In the U.S., call the hotline for children and teens at 1-800-999-9999. It’s free, confidential, and available from 4:00 PM to 8:00 PM, Eastern Time, seven days a week.

In the UK, call the helpline for children and teens at 0800 1111.

In Australia, call the 24-hour helpline at 13 11 14.

In Canada, call the helpline at 1-800-668-6868.

In Trinidad & Tobago, call the Curepe Lifeline at (868)-645-2800.

(As my fan base grow, I would edit this to include more countries!)

I also recommend that you listen to this song.

WARNING: Parental Advisory: Explicit Content

Angel Haze – Angels and Airwaves

I Hate Being Fat or I Hate People’s Opinion?

I first created this blog to bring hope to teens who might be suffering in any way at all and create simple resolutions to these problems but then I sat down and wondered, “what are some of the problems that teens have relating to life, family, friendship and love?”. Then I said that I’ll use Twitter to find problems that teens face on a day-to-day basis. Ahhh what an idea. No? Okay.

“I Hate Being Fat”

In one day “I hate being fat” is said by over 100 teens. This topic hit home for me because I am also a teen who hated being fat. Why do we hate being fat though?

The number 1 reason is *ding ding ding* you guessed it! Other people’s perception of us. People always feel as though they have the right to say what they want and unfortunately for some of us we have really b*tchy people in our lives who actually say what they want. At the age of 13 I must have been 240 lbs and about 5’4. At this age I went on a journey to “transform myself”, it really wasn’t for self-approval, I wanted to be accepted by the world. I didn’t want people to call me “Fat boy”. I didn’t want people to look at me as if I’m an alien. I didn’t want people to JUDGE me because of my size anymore. This is where my journey began for not self fulfillment but people fulfillment.

Running, eating healthy (although my mother could not afford to maintain my diet), going to the gym and ONLY drinking water (No juice, No Soda)  was my life in addition to school for 3 years. After all of this at the age 16 I only lost 30 lbs but I was now 5’11 and people were still not pleased. They still joked about my size indirectly and directly but something happened to me over this 3 year “transformation”. I became #UNBOTHERED!

During the period that I was running and eating healthy and going to the gym people would still make fun of me. So what was the problem there? Is me being fat the problem? HELL NO! The problem was that I put the opinions of people before that of myself.

If you are fat, don’t worry about what people have to say because we all have flaws. Don’t allow anyone to make you feel insecure. If you decide to get healthy, get healthy to look good for yourself. Love yourself before you love others. Your weight should not be people’s first opinion of you, let your cheerfulness and happiness be a representation of who you are.

Too often in life, something happens and we blame other people for us not being happy or satisfied or fulfilled. So the point is, we all have choices, and we make the choice to accept people or situations or to not accept situations.
-Tom Brady

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