EVERYONE feels depressed at some point in their life but unfortunately for some of us we feel depressed more often than others. Like me, I usually get depressed more than 2 times per day and for the most absurd of things. Luckily for those of you who do not feel depressed often, you have a measure of what in the psychiatric trade is known as “resilience”. (Yay for you! I’m jealous.)
Depression affects most persons differently. Although you and your friend might be facing the same problem the way you react to it can be completely different. Some persons react to depression by drinking alcohol, smoking, eating and some go into a state that I call, “Deep-pression” (this is where someone feel as if their life is no longer valuable). Persons experiencing deep-pression usually do self-harm and have thoughts of suicide.
Today I’m here to say that you are not alone. The feeling that you are having in this moment is temporary and life has more in store for you. It might not feel this way right about now but trust me ( a complete stranger) when I say that at some point you would feel as if all that hurt/depression lead you to that moment of hopefulness and or contentment. When you’re depressed, it can feel like no one understands. You are not alone and your depression is not a hopeless case.
Ways you can identify if you’re depressed:
- You constantly feel irritable, sad, or angry.
- Nothing seems fun anymore, and you just don’t see the point of trying.
- You feel bad about yourself—worthless, guilty, or just “wrong” in some way
- You sleep too much or not enough.
- You have frequent, unexplained headaches or other physical problems.
- Anything and everything makes you cry.
- You’ve gained or lost weight without consciously trying to.
- You just can’t concentrate. Your grades may be plummeting because of it.
- You feel helpless and hopeless.
- You’re thinking about death or suicide. (If this is true, talk to someone right away!)
Okay, so I’m depressed, I’m stressed, I have a headache, I’m frustrated. What can I do to solve this?
#1 Go Outside!
It’s not healthy to stay indoors all of the time. Your mind works better with fresh air and nature can help inspire creativity. If you’re like me and don’t have much friends or for whatever reason, you can’t go outside then open a window and be near it. The fresh air will do you good.
#2 Don’t Be Alone
You remember when you were a kid and you would get really excited when another kid wanted to play with you? Same thing here. As humans, we are very relationship-minded. We need social interaction so don’t avoid your loved ones. Even if you think you’d rather be alone, you’ll be much happier with the company.
#3 Don’t Dwell
“If I’d only done this…”
“If only I’d been nicer to her…”
“If only I’d worked a little bit harder!”
Look, we’ve all been there. You could play the “if only” game until you’re a cranky old man but if you spend so much time feeling sorry about what could have been then how can you ever move forward? You have a whole life ahead of you, but you can’t live it if you’re too busy looking over your shoulder.
#4 Don’t Be Afraid.
Just like all of the “if only” thoughts, the “what if” thoughts can hold you back too. Stop worrying about what is going to happen and just get out there to live your life. Your fear could be what’s bumming you out and causing you to miss out on some exciting opportunities. You’ll never know until you try.
#5 You’re Beautiful.
Maybe you looked in the mirror at Target and didn’t like what you saw. Or you got the pictures back from last weekend and you’re not sure when it happened but you’re not happy with the way you look. Understand that no matter what you weigh, what your skin looks like or how long your hair is, your beauty comes first from the inside. Everything else is cosmetic and can easily be dealt with so stop letting it ruin your life.
#6 Drink More Water.
One of the signs of dehydration is a depressed feeling. It can last for weeks and make you feel like your body is shutting down. Perhaps you have headaches, muscle aches and you feel more emotional than usual. These could be a number of things but chances are, you’re not drinking enough water. Try to get at least 64 ounces of water each day and see how you feel in a few days.
#7 Find a Hobby
Having a hobby is a great way to relieve stress and feelings of inadequacy. By focusing your creative energy on something, you can get your aggression out and feel like you’re doing something to benefit you or the world around you. Take a karate class, start painting again, learn how to grow a garden. Whatever it is you’ve always thought of doing, give it a try.
#8 Take Some Time Off
If you have a larger workload than usual and you’re finding that at the end of the day, there is no time to do anything but catch a few hours of sleep then maybe it’s time to take a break. Go on a family vacation, go for a weekend getaway, take a week off of work and just relax around the house. Whatever you need to do to unwind, you should do it.
#9 Stay Positive.
It’s easy to feel bad when all you do is focus on the negative details of life. Sure, things don’t always go your way and it seems like everything is failing, but don’t worry, it happens that way for almost everyone. Everyone has problems, but the key is to stay thankful for all of the amazing things in your life. What do you have to be thankful for? Think it over, no matter how small, you’ll find plenty to feel good about and even if the list is small, there’s always time to add more to it. Don’t make yourself into a victim.
If you’ve reach a stage of deep-pression, PLEASE use the contact information for your country provided below……
In the U.S., call the Nineline.org hotline for children and teens at 1-800-999-9999. It’s free, confidential, and available from 4:00 PM to 8:00 PM, Eastern Time, seven days a week.
In the UK, call the Childline.org.uk helpline for children and teens at 0800 1111.
In Australia, call the Lifeline.org.aus 24-hour helpline at 13 11 14.
In Canada, call the KidsHelpPhone.ca helpline at 1-800-668-6868.
In Trinidad & Tobago, call the Curepe Lifeline at (868)-645-2800.
(As my fan base grow, I would edit this to include more countries!)
I also recommend that you listen to this song.
WARNING: Parental Advisory: Explicit Content
Angel Haze – Angels and Airwaves